Below, four women get real about what their own swinging experiences were really like. Remember that before you take the plunge on some new sexual activity, you and your partner want to talk things out and make sure you both feel emotionally and physically safe to move forward! My husband knew that I was bi-curious when we met, so on the anniversary of our first date, we decided to explore and went to a swingers club. Not all experiences were percent pleasurable, so we made an effort to have those conversations and keep the lines of communication open. When you talk about [swinging] it makes it so much easier to discuss other issues in the relationship. Also, you need to have conversations with your spouse or partner before you go into it. I saw some sites that I was not familiar with, but I was appalled by what a saw.