Friendships between men and women are on the rise in the U. He attributed the reported discrepancy to the subjectivity of relationships, and concluded that an equal percentage of men and women have platonic friendships. I attribute the difference to typical male hubris. Greif says that the number of men in platonic friendships with women has likely increased since he published Buddy System. The rise of male-female relationships in general has also made way for guys like Tom, whose friends are almost all women.
Why do some straight men have femininity with other men? Tony Silva argues that these men — many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and assassination guns — are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting. After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they benefit from a range of relationships with erstwhile men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all although strongly identifying with straight culture.